If gay life was a giant ballroom and it kind of iskinky leathermen have been lingering in the back, in the shadows, for generations. Your side, with their closet-loving ways, were too afraid to stand up, to come out, to fight. A formal promise can involve anything from a paragraph to tens of pages in length. Candle play is hardly a scene of its own, but we're sure that somewhere out there is a sadistic guy exclusively into using candles to drip hot wax on submissives to create a painful sensation that typically does not leave long-lasting marks or long-term damage. Leather is the most popular fetishized material, with rubber as a close second.
Look at any of the thousand and one rationalizations for self-destructive behavior that appear by the minute on every gay blog. I had to inhale the fumes, and within a few seconds, the room went gray and I passed out. For instance, drinking urine is a soft limit for this writer — an act not done in most circumstances, but perhaps for special occasions like this year's Folsom Street Fair.
But it starts with a team and support and positivity from the time he wakes to the time he goes to sleep.