It may be the image of and beliefs you had about your son, your perceptions of yourself as a parent, or perhaps your desires and hopes for grandchildren. The three of them did research together to learn more about homosexuality and to try to find local LGBT organizations and resources. How do we handle the pain? Being gay is okay: Find a support group like PFLAG parents and friends of lesbians and gays and speak to other parents of gay children who are going through the same feelings as you.
But your reaction can have a long impact.
A Parent's Guide to Teenage Development. Are People Born Gay?: Here's what to do. Information and advice for gay, lesbian, bisexual and unsure under twenty-fives.
To this end, you may again want to consider engaging the assistance of a trained marriage therapist.