She ended up choosing a schmancy wine bar, and I had to eat croutons for dinner the following week to make up for the lost income. Gay couples have, according to a surveyfound a pretty clear rule of thumb to determine who should pay: You two hit it off, the conversation flowed easily and you even shared a few laughs. Is it typically what you lightly touched on for heteros—"Whoever asks, pays? Would you always expect a best friend to pay when you go out? Transitioning out of apartment life. For better or worse, there are no hard-and-fast rules when it comes to who should pay on the first date, so things can get confusing and kind of clumsy when the bill arrives.
But they are helpful as a guideline.
LGBTQ singles have the best way of deciding who pays on the first date
One of my favorite parts about being queer is that, because there are no default dating rules, we can make it up as we go along. The hilarious writer Dara Nai took the rule a step further: For Williamson, it all comes down to being able to have a candid conversation with a potential partner. Not for dessert when I buy dinner, or the tip or a ticket on the subway, anything. While you might want to impress on the first date, once you've gone out a few times, dropping lots of cash can start to be a drag. The magazine says the spend depends on your age or life stage:
The new rules and standards of dating — and paying. Men name the price they'll pay to take a woman on the site out and and if she's up for it, off you go. So, as the relationship kicks into high gear, talk early and often about money, to avoid nasty and avoidable fights. For one person, the goal was to make money transactions as comfortable as possible. Then the waiter places the check on the table. For Williamson, it all comes down to being able to have a candid conversation with a potential partner.