Working out is the one thing he can control… heavier sets, more protein shakes, more crunches. And recently, a notable and pervasive issue with a more physical focus has started to plague the gay male community. I thought this game was awesome, and I was damn good at it. Chiseling the perfect body is a great distraction from the underlying feeling of not being good enough. Body image is an issue for many men, regardless of sexuality. How do you really feel today? However, my knack for fantasy play did not earn me much street cred.
And many gay men have attempted to hold onto those affections by attempting to perfect their bodies.
How being a gay man can make your body issues worse
Oh, but one more thing: Although a creative coping mechanism, it does nothing to address the root problems: And despite all of this diverse classifying based on physical characteristics, there is an ideal that most gay men try to achieve. In his book, The Velvet Ragehe discusses the role that shame-based trauma plays in how gay men construct their sense of self. Inthe International Journal of Eating Disorders found that gay or bisexual men were three times more likely than straight men to have body image issues. Shame tells us that with excessive workouts, calorie counting, and emotion avoidance, we can achieve happiness and contentment. Why gay guys left their shirts in the closet:
Brandon Ambrosino gracefully articulated this temptation in an article he wrote for The Atlantic: When it comes to appearance, gay men hold themselves - and one another - to far more exacting standards. Is the Jacob Rees-Mogg Britpop parody the best viral political video ever? But it seems to be more of a problem in the gay community. How do you really feel today? When physical attractiveness becomes the primary value, it produces a setup where there is fierce competition among gay men to attract partners and physical attractiveness becomes the main comparison point. By working out tirelessly and reaping the sexual attention that comes from such intense workouts, the gay man can temporarily assuage the root anxiety and fear he carries about being rejected.